That right there is the problem. Though I believe that none of the commanders are ok with suicides occurring (leadership does suck, but I don't think they're full of hatred), they only do these kinds of things when they're told to and/or when their leadership puts their asses on the line for having too many suicides, DUI's, etc.
I firmly believe that 90.69% of O-6's and above (you can also include BTZ O-5's) will always put their own self interests above what is truly the right thing to do. Often times their own self interests naturally match up with what is the right thing to do for people and the mission (ie take care of wounded soldiers because leadership is told to so and they'll look bad if they don't do it), but other times, these 'leaders' will do whatever is necessary to impress their own bosses and make sure that their own records shine--regardless of whether it's the right (read integrity) thing to do. They are "Yes Men" in the purest form.
Again, this is just my opinion...but you know what, it's close to the same opinion of the majority of my peers. And if we're wrong, then there is obviously a disconnect...but a disconnect none the less, and then the leadership should do something about it, because this opinion has negative effects. A leader is someone who inspires you to do what is needed...a manager just tells you what they believe needs to be done and then makes sure go ahead and do it. We have a lot of managers in the upper ranks.