Different communities, different atmospheres.
I got burned by a load one time because she "didn't get a full 12 hours crew rest." At an undisclosed location in southwest asia, I set my crew for alert around 15hrs prior. I went by her room but she didn't answer after knocking several times and there was no chow hall/cadillac/bra note on her door. I wrote the alert time on her board, and left. Alert time rolls around and no call.. I eventually call the DO and he said they canx'd my line because I never notified my (1 of 2) loadmaster. Evidently, this young gal was sleeping when I came by, stumbled out of her room with 9 hours left until alert, saw the legal time, and called in to say she wasn't going to get a full 12 hours of rest... EVEN THOUGH SHE HAD JUST BEEN SLEEPING. I was irate, but how do you explain to a very new airman when to bend rules when she could very easily burn me again with "Well Capt DieselPilot said it's okay to violate this AFI."
I'm guessing you're in a crew community as well, but sometimes we have to account for the lowest common denominator which means following the rules past any reasonable expectation.