My point is that mil to mil choose that life fully knowing the ramifications and should not get special treatment. I’ve seen too many joint spouses get “drug” along by their significant other to an assignment that otherwise would go to someone more deserving. Examples I’ve seen: guy stay 9 years in Germany, another get selected for Phoenix Reach off the alternate list, another get school, DO of sister squadrons, SQ/CC of sister squadrons etc. Theres nothing here about good deal policing. I just think that it’s wrong to consider the personal lives of only a subset of individuals. Do it for everyone or no one. I’m just as likely to separate due to my family concerns as a mil to mil.
Similiar example is the single people getting shafted over holidays and on deployments because apparently their time is less valuable.
Regardless, it’s just an opinion and I can see the benefits to both sides.