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Spin it to let her keep some equity in return to help fund the refinance. Do not stay financially tied to that chick at any cost. Get the f-ck away from anything that ties her spending to something that affects you or gives her leverage. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

Looks like the revolt (and numerous retirement papers and 1288) has raised some eyebrows. Word is that Reserve KC135’s will continue with 60 day deployments (for now). Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

And then we want pictures.

If she wants the house, she can get a mortgage for it on her own. Agree with the others, do not allow any part of your new finances to touch. Don't worry about the kids, they're like cats. Two hours in a new house and they think they own the place.

what fucking experiments do we need to do? grow a fucking pair and make a decision (put your name/reputation by it...looking at you senior leaders)...and go fucking execute. god damn it. smells like a saving of face for the AF IRT screwing over the contractors

Keep positive, keep sober, and keep notes. And remember, there's an all-you-can-eat international buffet of strange and wonderful "adventures" out there awaiting you, and the company pays for the hotel room. Patience.

Thanks guys. That’s in line with what I was thinking. Sucks to be her. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

As has been said already, but I’m saying it again for emphasis, do NOT under ANY circumstance keep a mortgage or any other financial asset with her. The horror stories I’ve heard would water your eyes. I let my Ex stay in our house in lieu of alimony for over a year and even that was a mild disaster. The condition of the house wasn’t good when I finally got it back and some utilities had gone unpaid (that were in my name). The one thing I wish I had done differently is to have sold the house. I let her stay, and then moved myself back in, with the thought that it would provide stability for my kids but that hasn’t really been the case. They’re doing better with it now but the first 6 months of my being back in there were rough. Should have sold it and started fresh. also, steer clear of any language in the decree about who pays for college. It’s a whole can of worms that you want nothing to do with. They’ll be 18 by then anyway so figure it out later and don’t have it in writing.

Agree with above comments. Make her get own mortgage. If she fights it offer to let her keep the equity to help with a new down payment. Shows you are willing to work with her and you can use that to leverage against spousal/child support or to get another asset you want. Sucks because you are going to loose money short term but it’s hell of a lot better than paying a mortgage for a house for her to live in when she can’t make payments. The only thing you ever want to have to talk her about after this is over is the kids.

I second Mr. Di, seen that many times as well, just her way of keeping some sort of ties to a good time in her past, or her rescuer. Dudes I know have stayed in the divorce court system for 10+ years, cut ties other than the kids!

Ummm, no.... that’s really cute though

The effect you’re predicting is the effect CSAF intended to create. Original complaint from SRs was that folks ID’d as school attendees at their board would stop working at the level which brought them there. They were made men; some even PCS’d and displaced strat plans by different SRs. Complaints about the previous system which precipitated this change were from WG/CCs. By reserving a sizable portion of school slots for 3rd look, CSAF ensures folks continue working for it and we’ve had more time to assess their potential for higher performance. Also, those selected are selected by their current WG commander, not someone else’s pick forced upon a new WG. By creating “DA” CSAF has preserved the process by which WG/CCs can posture their #1 pick for BPZ (which traditionally doesn’t go to a 3rd look member). Time will tell if it’s a good change or bad. I personally think no process tweaks can fix a fundamentally broken culture. However I understand the logic, agree in principal, and you can’t fault the man for trying. Cheers.

I was so pissed by the time that movie ended I wanted to dig Johnson and Mcnamara back up and kick their ass just for good measure. As many of them pointed out, that was a complete shit-show from the beginning. Respect for the men who fought with their hands tied behind their backs! I became an AF pilot because of those men who fought in Viet Nam. In 1973 as a 10 year old I got to sit in an F-4 (18th TFW deployed) at CCK Air Base in Taiwan and speak with one of the pilots and it was game on from there.

Officer, major, pilot, with 8 month pilot training ADSC....most of the recruiters are morons when it comes to how the process actually works...for final approval a couple months back

Compete against the #1 guy for 10 slots or don’t compete against him for 9 slots. Tomato tomato.

I wasn't knocking the exec position (see my post about promotion from several months ago). Agree on the execs usually get the top strat but not guaranteed school. Wing execs are also usually Captains so probably won't benefit from DA. I think the new DA option is a step in the right direction to help uncover the "hidden gems." Just can't help but be a little cynical because CSAF guidance doesn't always get implemented correctly at the Senior Rater's level. Oh and the 2-line PRF is definitely coming this fall.

Felt real nice to click to click “confirm” to opt out of consideration. Great system. Sent from my iPhone using Baseops Network mobile app

Curious what you mean by “full on stupid.” Yes, by 2013 we had successfully crushed the culture of the cowboy, plane crashing early days. That was on purpose. By 2013 we were better at the mission and more lethal. Quantifiably. Nowadays they’re better than we were in 13, and isn’t that the objective of leaving something better than you found it? We should all want the new guys to be better than us, and we’ve failed if it isn’t so. What they did in 06-early 08 worked for the reason you described (small teams, selected by name) but that mission environment was unique and those guys mostly weren’t good at building it bigger when that was required. Things had to change. Free whisky on me if we cross paths. Good stuff too, I won’t go cheap on you!

I'll add something a bit different here. The above advice is solid, especially not drinking. Remember that everyone you deal with other than your wife and kids has seen this a million times. When a judge/lawyer/mediator asks what you want, it's just a test. You're getting half. If that's what you ask for, they know which party is acting in good faith. "I want my children to have a great relationship with both of their parents going forward, and to split the assets we accumulated while married right down the middle." Don't date for now. You have kids, I didn't. But they won't understand I'm guessing, and it sounds like the soon-to-be-ex will tell them if she finds out. You're going to get so much ass it'll make your head spin, so be patient. Write down everything that was wrong in your relationship. You determine the detail, but it should include what she would do that you didn't like, why you didn't like it, and how it made you feel. For bonus points, also write down the things that she didn't like about you. Trust me on this. When you meet that flight attendant that turns your stomach into butterflies, if it ain't written down, you won't remember it. Make sure the woman you decide to make into your kids' second mom isn't a recycled script. Do not trust this to your memory alone. The smaller brain is always an optimist. Think about how many people you know. Then think about how many of them are good friends. Then think about how many of those are best friends. The friend you can go on a month long backpacking trip with and not get annoyed with or tired of once. Pretty rare, huh? Now add sexual compatibility to that. If you find your forever-mate after 3 months and a few tinder dates, you'd better be buying lottery tickets too...

I didn’t see the part where he said he is a Nav but in a Gunship the Nav/CSO/WSO is doing one hell of a lot more than going along for the ride.

Not a movie and not the latest TV show but worth watching, Occupied. Just finished season 2 on Netflix. Norwegian TV series on what a "managed" occupation of Norway by Russia due to EU duplicity. Lots of twists, very interesting.