I’m assuming you want to hear some honesty, so here it goes:
Hard “NO” at my squadron. And I assume every other ANG base too. I’m not telling you not to apply, but you need to realize that an ANG pilot slot is extremely competitive, much more so than AD, not some sort of plan B or consolation prize.
Regardless of your family situation and whatever else led you to SIE, you will never be viewed as anything but the guy who bailed out of UPT. And there’s going to be plenty of applicants who are younger, possibly already enlisted in the unit, and who have deployed with them, and none of them have quit the very program we’re sending them to. I’ve never heard of someone getting an ETP due to prior SIE and that’s more than likely because nobody’s app, with an SIE on it, ever made it past the first glance, even if it’s possible.
I’d say your only snowball chance in hell, type of shot is to get in to a guard unit, in some other career field, and make so many pilot friends, particularly commanders, that they can’t envision life without you as a pilot there.
If you want some unsolicited career advice, take you GI Bill and go get your civilian ratings and head to the airlines ASAP.
Sorry for the shit news.