Most of what I would say has already been addressed, so I'll add two things I'd like to emphasize:
-NO (and I mean NO) woman is worth giving up a UPT slot. (And yes, I'm married).
-If you are already thinking about SIEing, you've got a long road ahead. You may want to reconsider your career choices, but for the love of God, don't do it over a woman. Reconsider because it is a year-long kick in the balls and a good couple of years after that of trap-shut, ears-open OJT without getting butt-hurt when someone says you suck (and you will). It is, however, the best job in the world, and beats the hell out of "working for a living".
...Oh yeah, we really do need to see pics of this broad to see what all of the hoop-lah is about.