Okay, so Im thinking your jargon is off. There is a difference between a deployment and PCS for training. A deployment for a reservist or guardsman is usually in support of some contingency or ongoing operation. Usually, spouses arent going with unless youre paying to send them. The only time I paid for my spouse to come with me was to a 2 week deployment to Puerto Rico. She came for about 4 days and I got launched down range. I ended up spending about 18 hours with her. It was a crap shoot, and I rolled snake eyes.
Now your spouse can come with you when you PCS for training. If you were selected for a UPT slot with the guard or reserves, youll go to OTS (or AMS) for about 90 days. The spouse wont come. Then youll PCS to a UPT base for a year, the spouse will come with. Then youre looking at FTU or IFM (Ill let a carnivore explain that route). Your FTU can take 3-7 months or longer. Your spouse may or may not be paid for but I would recommend taking her (especially if she is hot). There will be survival school (17 days) no spouse, Water survival, (7 days no spouse) and then youll be back home.
Most units like to hire local guys. Maybe not from the same state, but close by. Sometimes, theyll hire folks outside of the local area if that guy gives the impression that hell move local post UPT. Living close to the unit is much easier than having a large commute that youll pay for sometimes.