1) Seriously you could do better and you should be mature enough to demand better.
2) She needs a rough man to set her straight. Give it a hard yet gentle slap and hold her down a little by her hair.
2) SIE doesn't mean you are out of the AF. Just means now both you and her are unhappy.
3) Motorboat her once. Kinda like a prop over speed scenario. This is where her emotion is stored. Think about it. Do it.
4) You should be kicked in the nads for having low SA for a) posting you are in API, and b) posting this touchy feely crap. Don't you have a male friend to talk to? JTFC.
5) Seriousness now and I am not sure why nobody else has mentioned this. Have you ever considered during this episode to contact the NY guard or CA guard? If this is where she wants to live and this is really what you want to do then try that route to make it happen. This may help you both re-evaluate time frames while you wait for applications etc. Talk to leadership to help you apply and be honest with them before you SIE.
That was tough to give a serious answer dude. I, like others, would have gladly sold my wife to get a pilot slot and my left beaner. A relationship should be very easy. My wife isn't even living with me while I train so she can further advance in her career while I advance in mine. We will meet up eventually. We see each other whenever possible and just plan things as they come. If I were you I would go to the chaplain and get someone to talk to. You obviously need some help figuring this out and he/she would be a good start.