Duck Update

[Duck]

I guess since I let the cat slip out of the bag in the VA Loans post, y’all are due for an update. For those who care read on...

 

For those of you who don’t know my story, the short version is came back from a deployment to find out my wife of over 10 years and high school sweetheart had been cheating on me. Once she got caught in the 2nd affair (I know now that there were more than just the two I caught her in) she filed for divorce but let me take the kids and move out of state. I swore then that I would never get married ever again.

 

I did the single parent thing for a while and then randomly her and the boyfriend decide they are going to move to the city I and the kids are living. Then they start coming to my church, then the ex tries to sign up for the same bible study I had been going to. (Crazy, I know). I start dating a girl and the ex starts texting me news articles about her, that she had found online (nothing serious, just some school awards and pictures of her with her old boyfriend). I ended up breaking up with that girl and doing the tinder and bumble thing (for the eagle drivers out there, it’s like grinder but for guys looking for girls).

 

I was on a trip at my airline and the captain saw me doing the whole swipe right thing and he challenged me to hang up the internet dating thing. His wife had left him and his son years ago. He had been in the same situation I was when a widow and her two daughters moved into the house next door. They ended up falling in love and getting married. He told me to trust that God had a plan for my life and he would bring someone into my life when the time was right.

 

I ended up logging off tinder after being tired of dates with crazy nurses and girls looking to tie down any man who would take them.

 

It was just around this time when I decided to sign up for a bible study at my church (the same bible study my ex tried to sign up for before the leader told her that it wasn’t a good idea for us both to be in the same class). On the first day of the Bible study I met the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen. Total smoke show. She had a very similar story to mine (married to a narcissist, serial cheater/liar, etc). I asked her out for coffee and we started casually dating after realizing we had so much in common. The best part was that both of us swore that we were never getting married to anyone ever, so there was no pressure at all. After a couple months, COVID hit and both our jobs became telecommuting and all of a sudden we were spending almost every minute of every day together. I prayed about where our relationship was going and it became very obvious that I didn’t want to live without her. Maybe it wasn’t fair to judge every female just because I made a mistake 15 years ago and married a crazy narcissist with serious mental illnesses.

 

So I asked her to marry me and she said yes. I’ve never been happier. My parents love her, my kids love her and call her mom. She is just all around amazing.

 

So I haven’t been around here lately because I’ve been pretty busy merging our lives together.

 

Thank you all who supported me and encouraged me through a rather dark time in my life.

 

I am always an open book so if anyone has any questions, feel free to send them here or PM me and I’ll be glad to answer them.

 

 

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[Guardian]

Dude. So happy you found happiness.

[herkbier]

Heartfelt congratulations to you and your family!

[BeefBears]

I am happy for you but I also want to know more about the crazy nurses

[Gazmo]

I followed your original divorce saga with empathy. Life works in mysterious ways. Sometimes for worse or if you can wait long enough without making a more dumber mistake, sometimes for better. Glad it worked out for you. There are many, many men out there who've gone through or are going through the same thing who may never be as fortunate. It is nice that both of you had similar experiences as it will enable you to appreciate the normalcy you never had with your ex.

+1 for crazy nurses.

[M2]

Duck, probably some of the best news I've heard in a long time!  I wish you all the happiness you deserve!

[FUSEPLUG]

5 hours ago, Duck said:

...COVID hit and both our jobs became telecommuting and all of a sudden we were spending almost every minute of every day together. 

I am always an open book so if anyone has any questions, feel free to send them here or PM me and I’ll be glad to answer them.

 

One question: which airline has gone to the telecommuting option?  I'm beginning to think I may have fucked up with my choice of companies.

Congrats, brother!  Glad to hear things have smoothed out post-AD.

[ClearedHot]

Brother...life is a gift and we should make the most of every moment. 

Tough times make tough people.

Congrats on a new beginning.

[Duck]

I am happy for you but I also want to know more about the crazy nurses

Ha. I knew that would come up. Here was the craziest one...

Meet this girl on bumble, cute girl, she’s a nurse practitioner for a burn unit. We talk for a while and then I ask her to meet for lunch. All in all she seems pretty normal. We just didn’t really click over lunch in my opinion. I was pretty bored and I felt like I was having to carry the conversation. I tell her nice to meet her and get on with my life.

A week goes by and she texts me asking how I was doing etc. Eventually it turns to relationships and she mentions how she can’t wait to get married and have kids, all guys are pigs, all they want is sex, etc, etc... How it was so refreshing that I didn’t try to sleep with her during our lunch date. I tell her that I think we may want different things, I can’t have anymore kids and I am never getting married but I am more than happy to be her friend but it would never be more than that. She says that’s totally fine, that is all she wants too. (Hmmm... okay, not what you just finished saying but that’s fine.)

Maybe two weeks or so later I’m sitting on my couch on a Tuesday night watching Netflix. My kids are with their mom for the week, and Nurse girl texts me asking me what I am up to. We haven’t texted at all since the last conversation. I tell her I just ordered a pizza and am watching some opioid documentary on Netflix (my sister is a doctor and she told me it was good... it wasn’t). She asks if she can come over because she had been wanting to watch it.

So I know that I am super naive about all this dating stuff. I met my ex in high school and was with her almost 20 years. So I say sure, I have nothing else going on. I give her my address. She shows up, we eat pizza, watch the documentary and it’s late and time for her to leave. (She says she has to be up at 4am for the hospital and it’s 10pm). The chick won’t leave my house and now she won’t shut up. She keeps going on about how cool it is that I am in the military and an airline pilot, how respectful I am, that I haven’t tried to kiss her (I’m just not into her at all, she’s really annoying). I ask her why would I try to kiss her, we had decided just to be friends and that there was no romantic chemistry. The most annoying thing she kept doing was after she would talk for a while she would go “hmmm” as if she was thinking about something and then look at me. I kept saying, well it’s late, you probably need to get some sleep, but it was like she didn’t even hear me.

Finally after one of her “hmm” moments she starts leaning over to me. The tv is still on and the remote is by me on the couch so I think she’s reaching for the remote, nope! She leans over on me and starts kissing me. Because I was sitting facing her on the couch she pushes me backwards and basically crawls on top of me. I seriously didn’t know what to do. I freaked out and immediately thought to myself. “If I don’t let her down easy, this chick is going to say I assaulted her or something” (this happened to a guy in my guard unit). She slides her hand down to my jeans and starts to try to unlatch my belt. I tell her, “wow this is awesome, but I have to go pee”. She gets off of me and I run to the bathroom. She tells me when I get back she’s going to give me the best sex of my life (paraphrased and edited to keep this PG) Normally that would be awesome, but this chick is crazy and not in a good way. I take a couple mins to figure out how I am going to get her to leave without her destroying my life.

I walk out of the bathroom and I go: “Sarah, I think your awesome and I would love to have sex with you tonight, but I feel like I haven’t healed from my divorce and I still love my ex-wife (barf). You kissing me made me think of her and how much history we had together. If you still want to date me, we definitely can try, but I think we are going to need to go really slow so I can get over my ex”

I guess talking about your ex wife is the key because she is like “oh I wasn’t going to have sex with you” Then I deal with her crying and complaining about how all the bad guys want to bang her and how all the good, decent ones keep telling her they aren’t over their ex or that they aren’t ready for anything serious.

Finally she leaves and although she texted me a couple other times asking me to come to her house or do stuff, I always had something else planned.

I know some of you are probably thinking that sounds awesome and want her number... others think I am crazy for turning her down. I’m serious though, she was crazy-crazy.

So that’s the story of how I almost got raped in my own house...


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[Duck]

One question: which airline has gone to the telecommuting option?  I'm beginning to think I may have ed up with my choice of companies.
Congrats, brother!  Glad to hear things have smoothed out post-AD.

Thanks brother! I saw the writing on the wall with my airline and jumped to a semi-full time guard job which quickly went to telecommuting. It was awesome. For almost 8 months I could work from home and date my future wife!


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[slc]

I once dated a nurse as well. Her name was Sarah....... hmmmm

[Duck]

I once dated a nurse as well. Her name was Sarah....... hmmmm

I honestly don’t remember her name. Jennifer, Jessica maybe?


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[ClearedHot]

1 hour ago, Duck said:

Ha. I knew that would come up. Here was the craziest one...

Meet this girl on bumble, cute girl, she’s a nurse practitioner for a burn unit. We talk for a while and then I ask her to meet for lunch. All in all she seems pretty normal. We just didn’t really click over lunch in my opinion. I was pretty bored and I felt like I was having to carry the conversation. I tell her nice to meet her and get on with my life.

A week goes by and she texts me asking how I was doing etc. Eventually it turns to relationships and she mentions how she can’t wait to get married and have kids, all guys are pigs, all they want is sex, etc, etc... How it was so refreshing that I didn’t try to sleep with her during our lunch date. I tell her that I think we may want different things, I can’t have anymore kids and I am never getting married but I am more than happy to be her friend but it would never be more than that. She says that’s totally fine, that is all she wants too. (Hmmm... okay, not what you just finished saying but that’s fine.)

Maybe two weeks or so later I’m sitting on my couch on a Tuesday night watching Netflix. My kids are with their mom for the week, and Nurse girl texts me asking me what I am up to. We haven’t texted at all since the last conversation. I tell her I just ordered a pizza and am watching some opioid documentary on Netflix (my sister is a doctor and she told me it was good... it wasn’t). She asks if she can come over because she had been wanting to watch it.

So I know that I am super naive about all this dating stuff. I met my ex in high school and was with her almost 20 years. So I say sure, I have nothing else going on. I give her my address. She shows up, we eat pizza, watch the documentary and it’s late and time for her to leave. (She says she has to be up at 4am for the hospital and it’s 10pm). The chick won’t leave my house and now she won’t shut up. She keeps going on about how cool it is that I am in the military and an airline pilot, how respectful I am, that I haven’t tried to kiss her (I’m just not into her at all, she’s really annoying). I ask her why would I try to kiss her, we had decided just to be friends and that there was no romantic chemistry. The most annoying thing she kept doing was after she would talk for a while she would go “hmmm” as if she was thinking about something and then look at me. I kept saying, well it’s late, you probably need to get some sleep, but it was like she didn’t even hear me.

Finally after one of her “hmm” moments she starts leaning over to me. The tv is still on and the remote is by me on the couch so I think she’s reaching for the remote, nope! She leans over on me and starts kissing me. Because I was sitting facing her on the couch she pushes me backwards and basically crawls on top of me. I seriously didn’t know what to do. I freaked out and immediately thought to myself. “If I don’t let her down easy, this chick is going to say I assaulted her or something” (this happened to a guy in my guard unit). She slides her hand down to my jeans and starts to try to unlatch my belt. I tell her, “wow this is awesome, but I have to go pee”. She gets off of me and I run to the bathroom. She tells me when I get back she’s going to give me the best sex of my life (paraphrased and edited to keep this PG) Normally that would be awesome, but this chick is crazy and not in a good way. I take a couple mins to figure out how I am going to get her to leave without her destroying my life.

I walk out of the bathroom and I go: “Sarah, I think your awesome and I would love to have sex with you tonight, but I feel like I haven’t healed from my divorce and I still love my ex-wife (barf). You kissing me made me think of her and how much history we had together. If you still want to date me, we definitely can try, but I think we are going to need to go really slow so I can get over my ex”

I guess talking about your ex wife is the key because she is like “oh I wasn’t going to have sex with you” Then I deal with her crying and complaining about how all the bad guys want to bang her and how all the good, decent ones keep telling her they aren’t over their ex or that they aren’t ready for anything serious.

Finally she leaves and although she texted me a couple other times asking me to come to her house or do stuff, I always had something else planned.

I know some of you are probably thinking that sounds awesome and want her number... others think I am crazy for turning her down. I’m serious though, she was crazy-crazy.

So that’s the story of how I almost got raped in my own house...


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Insert (sts), soft porn music while reading.

[BADFNZ]

So a cute nurse promised you the best sex of your life but all you could talk about is your ex?  You're a stronger and better man than me. 

Congrats and good luck!

[SocialD]

55 minutes ago, Duck said:

I honestly don’t remember her name. Jennifer, Jessica maybe?

 

 

But seriously, glad things word themselves out Duck!

[Clark Griswold]

Dear Penthouse Forum (insert Duck nurse story here)


Glad it all worked out bud


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[herkbum]

I have always said that everything happens for a reason, we just have to figure out what that reason may be. Congratulations on a happy and fulfilling life!!


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[Bergman]

I feel like this nurse story needs an alternate ending like...

“So I walk out of the bathroom and say, “Best Sex eh?  Prove it, because you don’t look like you’re good at it”.  And that’s the story of how I died having sex in my own house.”  Or something like that.

 

Congrats Duck!  I’ve walked a similar path and can appreciate where you are at now.  🍻 

[FLEA]

Duck,

Glad to see things are working out for you. Was kind of curious what became of you situation a while ago. Best of luck man! 

[Phase4]

Duck, 

Glad to hear you’re happy and things worked out for you.